At a recent youth worker convention, one presenter made the observation that the average youth pastor has a four-year tenure before experiencing frustration, failure and burnout. This is a sad commentary on the stresses of ministry (inside the church and beyond) and dashed hopes. Many youth workers who leave ministry cite difficulties with senior leadership, low pay, and congregational conflicts and low support as being contributing factors.

Soul care (self care) is of paramount importance in ministry. With nearly 35 years of ministry under my belt, I’ve learned a few things about survival (and how to thrive in a harsh environment with high expectations). Here are three quick insights I’d like to offer.

1. Create and keep an affirmation file. This is a collection of cards, letters, emails and gifts that you receive from others who affirm your ministry, your leadership, your life. (Yes, you have them! Everyone does!) Don’t throw these away. Keep them on hand and file them. When you get discouraged or have dark days, look in this file, and you will feel uplifted and affirmed—energized—to continue.

2. Take adequate time for yourself. This is important each week, but also make sure you have a personal retreat and vacation time each year. Don’t try to combine work and pleasure. Make time to refresh yourself in pursuits you love (preferably outdoors!) and when you do take that personal retreat, let it be a time of rest and renewal—not a fast and furious break.

3. Keep positive people around you. This includes your family, of course, but nurture the positive friendships, too. We all need supportive people—in the congregation and beyond. Positive influences breed positive work, and you will remain upbeat and energized by these supportive relationships.