Aside from the well known, but often ignored emotional and social risks associated with teen dating, violence and abuse in teen relationships is a widespread problem.
Emotional abuse is the most common type among teens, taking the form of insults, mean-spirited teasing, outright threats, accusations, and/or possessive and controlling behavior. National surveys show approximately one in 11 high school students had been victims of physical dating violence 9 percent, and 24 percent of sexually active 15- to 17-year-olds have engaged in an unwanted sexual activity.
The wounds of dating violence run deep and long, resulting in unhealthy sexual and social behaviors (often leading to health complications), substance abuse, depression, and suicide. An abusive relationship may also solidify unhealthy patterns and behaviors that affect future relationships.
Dating violence often goes unreported for a number of reasons including: fear, feeling of failure or childishness, peer pressure, low self-esteem, and loneliness. Many victims also don’t recognize the problem, having had little experience or training in dating relationships and not knowing what constitutes appropriate behavior.
The National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline, (866) 331-9474, launched this year, provides teenagers with a private outlet to talk about their concerns, but many experts believe the best time to intervene is before the abuse begins by equipping parents to teach about healthy relationships and encouraging honesty and communication.
Though they frequently fail to recognize the signs of abuse, parents play a clear role in preventing dating abuse. Not only should they talk openly about the potential, but they also need to step in if they have concerns.
How do you address the topic of dating with parents and students? How do you feel about the widespread acceptance of dating among Christians and youth groups?
