Every day, 2,000 U.S. youngsters are reported missing, according to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. Each year, 58,000 are taken by people unrelated to them and 200,000 are snatched by members of their own families. Sadly, there’s no relief in knowing the child may be with family.
Author George Molho, who was kidnapped as a 7-year-old, offers tips on how to prevent kids from suffering the same fate. In 1978, Molho was taken to Greece from his home in Houston by his father, a man with a brutal temper, an obsessive need for control and a sadistic desire to inflict pain. No one, not even his mother, believed him when he anticipated his father’s plan to spirit him away and tried to warn them, Molho writes in his new memoir Scarred (GeorgeMolho.com).
Now a passionate advocate for child kidnapping and abuse victims, Molho says awareness of the problem and efforts to develop solutions that protect children should be a top national priority.
“One thing every parent can do to protect [his or her] children comes right from my own experience—and I don’t think parents know how very important it is,” Molho says.
“My mother thought I was being paranoid when I shared my worries with her. She took me to a psychologist, who said I was making up the story because I was upset that my parents weren’t living together anymore.”
When young children express fear or concern about a close friend or family member, adults tend to chalk it up to shyness, a ploy for attention or fantasy, Molho says.
“Trust your child’s instincts,” he says. “If [he or she acts] uncomfortable around someone because [of an inability to] verbalize [his or her] feelings or [expresses discomfort], trust [your child]. No matter who it is, if [children] tell you a person scares them, protect them.”
Molho offers these other lesser-known tips for protecting children from kidnappers, whether they’re friends or family:
• Teach children how to fib on the phone. If they’re home alone, for instance, and someone calls asking to speak to their mother or father, they might say, “My mother’s busy in the kitchen right now and asked me to answer the phone and take a message.” Put them to the test by having someone they don’t know, one of your friends or co-workers, call.
• Make approved lists of people who will deliver any important news to them. If Mom or Dad is in trouble or hurt, only these people will know and tell the child. Even if Uncle Bob tells them Mom is in the hospital and the child needs to go with Uncle Bob, if he’s not on the approved list, the child should not go. This is a common ploy.
• Teach them, train them and give them permission to defend themselves. This is very important and saves lives. Most children are taught to be polite and respect adults; it’s far safer to risk offending an adult—even if it turns out the adult meant no harm. Screaming, kicking and running away are perfectly acceptable if a stranger grabs your arm—even if the stranger is smiling sweetly.
