“May I never boast of anything except the cross of Christ” (Gal. 6:14).
One of the most important books (other than the Bible) that shaped my life was Henri Nouwen’s classic The Wounded Healer. In this book, Nouwen articulates the ways in which our own wounds impact us but also provide a way for other people to be healed. In essence, our own struggles, pains and difficulties are the very points at which we can begin conversation with others and lead others to the healing source of God’s love.
No one likes the thought of being weak or wounded (emotionally, relationally, etc.), but out of these life experiences we learn much and have stories to tell. Our stories can become life stories and truly can be testimonies of God’s grace and healing.
In the span of 30 years of youth ministry, I can attest to the wonders of this truth. My wife is a breast cancer survivor: Through these experiences with my wife we have been able to minister to dozens of other couples in their need. My son has wrestled with depression: Out of these experiences as a parent and helper, I have been able to converse and support other parents who are dealing with their own questions and struggles. Of course, I have had my own weaknesses as a pastor, limitations that often have caused me to lean heavily on God and through which I perhaps could help other pastors and youth leaders.
Our own wounds are never limitations with God! In fact, we can become wounded healers with God’s help. We are set free to be of help to others who are hurting. Through our words, actions and empathy, we can relate the marvelous grace of God.
